This should have happened about 5 years ago, but she was stubborn.
Her care has escalated and falls almost entirely on my husband (of 6 kids). I've been watching my husband age before my very eyes. His mother has never been rational, and even more so the last few years. If she could have her way, she'd have my husband move in and take care of her every whim 24/7. She has health issues (but won't do anything on her side to make them any better), poor decision making skills (like not opening her mail for months, her food stamps were cut off because she never responded), and is consumed with anxiety. Its just not safe for her to live alone, she is now on oxygen and just wants everything to be done for her. She told my husband that he's just trying to "dump her", and today she said "tomorrow, I'm going off to jail". It just crushes my husband's spirit, and has been taking every last ounce of energy he has. If he wasn't already retired, he would have had to resign because she is just so demanding.
Not asking for any advice really, just needed to get all that out. I'm just hoping that things will get better for my husband after the month is over. He'll still have to empty out her apartment. She can't quite understand why she can't bring her whole household with her to the rest home where she'll be sharing a room. There is a lifetime of clutter he will have to sort through (semi hoarding tendencies).
For anyone who has been through this with a loved one, any words of advice? How long did it take for your loved one to get used to the new situation (even though they may never have actually "liked" it)?