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    AS someone else mentioned, I am having another look at all my baking dishes as one example. I have been here 3 1/2 years and have used just a couple of favourites. I should dispose of the rest and rearrange my cupboards. Good process to go though in layers of effort culling a little more each time.
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    Quote Originally Posted by happystuff View Post
    Reading these stories, dealing with stuff from a family member who died, and listening to friends who have had to clean out houses has been enough to motivate me the last couple of years. Reading threads like these rejuvenates my decluttering in those times when I seem to "slack off". I know it is somewhat selfish, but I don't want the "cleaning out of stuff" to be the last thing people remember about me. Congrats to all the progress everyone is making/has made.
    Was thinking about this after I visited an older friend who has now been officially diagnosed with dementia. She's single, in her late 70s, and has a house and garage full of items. She's not a hoarder but has never really decluttered either, meaning there's plenty of dishware, books, tools, etc. that all need to be reviewed and processed by her 3 adult children, only one of whom lives nearby. She's not planning to move just yet but I think she knows some kind of senior community living is in her near future.

    My point: it's never too early to do what's being called the Swedish Death Cleaning. Unfortunately in my friend's current mental state she'll now be too agitated and distressed to make the many decisions on her artwork and household objects, so things she may have wanted to set aside for certain family or friends will now end up wherever her heirs decide. She's lost that right, after a lifetime of accumulation of nicer things.

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    Just had this discussion with a friend over lunch. He is another parent whose grown kids have told them they want none of the parent's, grandparent's or great-grandparent's things. Life has changed around us. It has been decades of discussing what would happen if consumers stopped consuming.

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    Of course what if one plans to probably have some stranger discover one's rotted corpse someday anyway, and not really be missed by anyone at that point anyway (everyone else one really knew in the world having long since passed on perhaps). Or else to die forgotten and with alzheimers in some nursing home.

    See I don't think us people without kids really care one iota if we leave behind a hoard are not (there might be other reasons not to be a hoard of course, but who the heck finds our body is definitely NOT one of them - and hey maybe they will even like some of our cool stuff we accumulated over the years after we have long departed - I do often think about if someone will like my stuff after I die - so not motivating to declutter at all really).
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    ANM: Yes, when I declutter it is really for our own benefit, to keep our little house comfortable and uncluttered.

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    I do it too to keep our home from getting cluttered. It feels better to have less.

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    I agree it feels better to have less. Unfortunately I live with one or two individuals who haven't reached the same conclusion... at least not at this point in time. Now that things have been decluttered to a good degree, it's reach the stage of "yours" and "mine" and how much should one person be allowed to keep in a joint household.

    Anyone else in a situation where you declutter and want less but the spouse/partner/other household member(s) do not?
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    Quote Originally Posted by happystuff View Post
    I agree it feels better to have less. Unfortunately I live with one or two individuals who haven't reached the same conclusion... at least not at this point in time. Now that things have been decluttered to a good degree, it's reach the stage of "yours" and "mine" and how much should one person be allowed to keep in a joint household.

    Anyone else in a situation where you declutter and want less but the spouse/partner/other household member(s) do not?
    Yes, all of my married life.

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    Quote Originally Posted by happystuff View Post
    I agree it feels better to have less. Unfortunately I live with one or two individuals who haven't reached the same conclusion... at least not at this point in time. Now that things have been decluttered to a good degree, it's reach the stage of "yours" and "mine" and how much should one person be allowed to keep in a joint household.

    Anyone else in a situation where you declutter and want less but the spouse/partner/other household member(s) do not?
    Oh God, yes.

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    To be fair, my own junk is endlessly fascinating to me, but DH’s junk is just junk. He fills basement and garage and tiny houses with it. Yet he comes up with stuff when we need it. He was saving a bed frame in the garage because it was useful as something something anvil or angle something something.

    Now we need another bed frame and will use it as a bed frame.

    I do not know what DH will do with the five toilets sitting in one of our tiny houses that now has to be cleaned out so we can sell it. Not my circus, not my monkies/toilets.

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