My grandmother recently fell and broke her hip (yes the one who is 95 and we just saw for her birthday). She did not recover well and went to hospice on Friday, passed away yesterday. I talked to my aunt briefly and she said it wasn't going well. I wasn't sure how much my mom would say, she tends to be more un-emotional. But I talked to her a couple times yesterday and she did tell me it wasn't going well. Apparently my grandmother was 'restless dying'. She was very agitated. My mom has sat with many people including her best friend during the process of dying but they were all quiet, more in a coma than agitated. So this was hard of course. She did say that the hospice staff said this happens when there is a lot that is unprocessed from a life that people are still working out. My mom told me that she promised to not do that to us kids, and I told her it was okay because she really wouldn't have a choice.
Still it makes me think that there is time and space for my mom, really my parents, to have to get a little more in touch with their emotional sides, maybe process the stuff of life. It is NOT something they would naturally do. However this is my area more than my siblings, the meditation and self reflection and all the wonderful (totally sarcastic here) stuff that goes with it. It will be interesting to see what comes of it.