I spent the day with 41 as part of his local protection detail about 15 years ago. He was down to earth, gracious and unassuming. He chatted freely and treated everyone as if they were long lost friends. I watched him get down on his knees, at a point in his life where he had to be helped back up, so that a gaggle of kids could have their picture taken with him.
I wasn't at all surprised a few years ago when he shaved his head in solidarity with a member of his Secret Service details child who lost his or her hair due to chemo treatments. That's the kind of guy he is.
I believe he and his wife were good people, I mourn her loss and his pain. Nothing anonymous internet commentators can say will change that.