Dh is talking about retirement. Not “soon”, in about six years.
i am a little surprised by my emotional reaction to this. I am worried. Mostly I am worried about how this is going to affect MY life.
he has recently become much more focused on golf and the guitar. He has been cooking more. All that is good.
but when he cooks, I gain weight. He is a natural night owl and I am a morning person. What happens when I am still getting up at 5 and he doesn’t have to go to work?
he was looking at the finances last night and asked me “when are you going to retire?” (Is it “retiring” if you just leave a part time job with an hourly wage and no benefits?) I said “I don’t know. Never?Next year? When it isn’t fun any more?” And he said “ok, so, six years.”
what does that mean? He’s just assuming I will quit my job and change my life to suit his? He only wants to talk about the money. I’m not worried about the money, I know he is very conservative, I am worried about pressure to make a sudden, radical, lifestyle change. I am still adjusting my life to having no kids and a job! My youngest just moved back in!
this hit me from left field. Twenty years ago I would have told you he would never retire. Last year he was still talking a ten year window. Now, suddenly he sounds like he would quit tomorrow if he could.