Have you considered shooting Harlan so that you don’t have the expense of his upkeep, the concern of his care while you travel, and the inconvenience of his belongings in your space?
(I assume that question as absurd to you as yours is to me)
I’m concerned about my mail. My meals, my sleep and activity schedule, the effects on my home including auditory, visual, and organizational issues, and loss of control over shopping decisions that are important to me (those with significant social or environmental impact) - what comes to mind at the moment.
so, yeah, I should definitely give up an emotionally, intellectually, and sexually fulfilling relationship that also provides enjoyable shared activities and make a mess of my living arrangements, finances, and family dynamics to avoid having to address those other concerns....