Iris lilies, he is only our boy. He lives with his father four weeknights a week during the school year. (honestly, i’m not sure why he even gets to have a relationship with his son, but her xmil is heavily involved and many people are watching like hawks.) The woman who is leaving was a very reluctant “mom” and while he may miss her, they also have a lot of conflict, so honestly he may be happier having his actual mom to himself on weekends. He calls xgf by her first name. At one point he experimented with “mom” but dropped it.
heartdaughter is very concerned about guiding him through the whole thing. She brought up her guilt over putting her son through two failed relationships and commented that she was the same age her mother was when she got divorced the second time. I had to tell her she is not in any way her mother!
anyway, the boy will still see the other woman fairly regularly because he has activities at their place of work, and dhd is willing to facilitate them having time together if he wishes and she is willing.
meanwhile, I will see him more because dhd has one fewer childcare provider.
for me.