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    Photos and privacy

    Dh posted a bunch of photos of me and a lot of them were unflattering or just something I didn't want to share. I told him to ask my permission before posting photos of me, and he said he thought that was crazy - that he's posting about his life, and I'm part of it.

    He'll let anyone belong to his Facebook & Instagram feeds.

    He eventually agreed to ask me first.

    Am I being over sensitive about this? I feel I should have control over my own image.
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    No you are not being oversensitive. When I was on Facebook my son wouldn't let me post pictures of him (teenage self-consciousness). My last boyfriend when I was on wouldn't either (found out he was a cheater and didn't want other women running across the pictures, though that is not the reason he gave me). If your marriage is a traditional monogamous one maybe make sure your husband knows your reasons and that they are not nefarious.

    I did not put my photo on my FB profile but do have it on LinkedIn and hope I never get hit by an identity thief.

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    Wow, I would be really upset. You are not being oversensitive. I'd tell him he does not have my permission to post any photo of me, ever.

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    I think your request reasonable. I prefer to not have my photos on FB. I'm not one it and either is my spouse. Sometimes my (adult) kids will post on their site, and if I hear about it I ask them to delete the one with me in it. Gives me a (I am sure false) sense of privacy:-)

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    Most people ask me first but pictures are everywhere - Instagram twitter etc - I think Pandora’s box was opened years ago.

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    I can understand his wanting to share his life a little more "out loud" than you care to. I can understand DH making an effort to change your mind about publishing those pictures. I think if the pictures are of both of you or with family/friends and in public places there's a little less standing to bar publishing the pictures.

    But, simply out of respect for you, if you don't want those pictures published, he should not publish them.
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    I guess I'm the outlier here, because I would find your request a little strange. That being said, you certainly have the right to make the request and having done so, he should honor it (which it sounds like he has).

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    I don't blame you; you have a right to your privacy.

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    My son made the same request of me when he was in HS. I too felt at first that I was sharing the family but my relationship with him was more important. Since that first request there have been a couple of significant things occur and I have wanted to post. I always ask him first and if the answer is no...…. no means no.

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    Your husband should definitely ask first.

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