I am reflecting on recent events at work and reading up on some interpersonal dynamics and personalities. I actually feel pretty good about totally losing my sh** in the end. I have run into this dynamic before and each time I do a little better. First was ex-husband, I walked out pretty emotionally beat up but with a fair financial settlement. The recession really impacted my recovery because I couldn't earn much. Then I had a teaching job with a horrible boss, ended up leaving in February and went back to low wage Target job. Took my years to financially recover, confidence and job references were also really hard.
This recent work/abuse situation was probably one of the worst as I reflect on the extent of what happened, (if you don't know the story I am letting that part go, sorry). It brought my professional reputation down in a group of supervisors and of course the 3+ weeks of medical leave was intense. However I walked out with a job that earns very close to what I was earning, 20 minutes from home, and being paid out a LOT of vacation time. My 2 previous supervisors were my references which enabled me to get another job. I did not walk out a victim, although I realized as soon as I went back there was no way I could have stayed. My review was just above getting fired basically. However I can put on job applications that I never quit to avoid disciplinary action because I left with a new job.
I was doing some reading to learn from this, I feel that similar things keep showing up and we learn better each time how to handle them. I can see some things I was doing that while being normal actions actually made it much worse. Very informative, my personality tends to act in ways that would piss off certain types. I can be better prepared now,