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    We spend far too much time between 90-105 to go without A/C. I started working in the OR at age 19 at 68F or under. Then when perimenopause hot flashes started I couldn't stand the house even at 78 degrees anymore. We live at 74 and even cooler at night or this girl doesn't sleep. 57 and still have those night sweats I am grateful we can afford to cool the house (power is cheap in Idaho.)

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    We just had visitors (DIL and her 2 kids) here from Ohio, her first time out here in the Pac NW. She told us the thing she found most interesting here was that there were so few swimming pools in peoples' yards. She said where she lives that's the status symbol, but here everyone has vegetable gardens and that's what people talk about. Ha!

    Like Jane, we haven't had record temps down here, but the unusually long extended dry period is the concern. Such a fire hazard. We have AC in our house, but I hate it. DH cranks it up to where I'm wearing a sweater indoors in the evening. I sometimes go outside and read on the porch instead.

    Feel badly our yard is so brown. I do keep my small flowerbeds and my new tree watered, though.
    My therapist told me the way to achieve true inner peace is to finish what I start. So far today, I have finished two bags of M&Ms and a chocolate cake. I feel better already!

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    Catherine,
    If anyone thinks you are quirky based upon your housing, etc., I would rather be quirky than plain vanilla! It is much more interesting. And you must get past the idea that people are judging you. Maybe they are and maybe they aren't. Who cares? To each her own. I currently live in a 720 sq ft apartment and it has everything I need, except more windows. I can live small but I need lots of light. My previous home that I owned was just under 1300 sq ft and it had huge windows everywhere. Unfortunately, I had to sell my beautiful townhouse because of a serious lung disease. But I recovered and I am so grateful. I lost a lot of my savings also. I'm retired and at 74 years I will not be owning another house. I have had to adjust to this chain of events and it has humbled me. People may be judging me for the way I live now, but I have learned to disregard those thoughts. I concentrate on gratitude - the best antidote for negative thoughts. Just my thoughts. Sorry if I got off topic.
    Linda (in SoCal)

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    Quote Originally Posted by Polliwog View Post
    Catherine,
    If anyone thinks you are quirky based upon your housing, etc., I would rather be quirky than plain vanilla! It is much more interesting. And you must get past the idea that people are judging you. Maybe they are and maybe they aren't. Who cares? To each her own. I currently live in a 720 sq ft apartment and it has everything I need, except more windows. I can live small but I need lots of light. My previous home that I owned was just under 1300 sq ft and it had huge windows everywhere. Unfortunately, I had to sell my beautiful townhouse because of a serious lung disease. But I recovered and I am so grateful. I lost a lot of my savings also. I'm retired and at 74 years I will not be owning another house. I have had to adjust to this chain of events and it has humbled me. People may be judging me for the way I live now, but I have learned to disregard those thoughts. I concentrate on gratitude - the best antidote for negative thoughts. Just my thoughts. Sorry if I got off topic.
    Linda (in SoCal)
    Hey Linda, glad you are feeling better and making a great recovery!

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    Linda, I am glad you are well. I am sorry you had financial issues but health is more important than things. I never value myself by where I live. If I have a clean safe place I am good.

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    Thanks for all the encouragement.

    Linda, thanks so much for the support--I am so glad things have worked out for you health wise. I'm sorry you were forced to downsize.. but it sounds like it is working for you. I, too, won't have a heck of a lot to live on going forward, but I'm finding I need very little, and that is a very freeing lesson.


    Catherine, if you're happy with your new house that's all that matters. (and frankly, it sounds lovely!) Worst case scenario some of your friends who come to visit may think you're "quirky" or be baffled by your decision on how to live. But they aren't living there. Or paying the bills. You are.
    Why would you apologize for your choices? This is not something I understand at all. Are YOU uncomfortable with it and your projecting this onto your guests?
    Thanks, jp1 and Gardnr--and to answer your question, Gardnr, of course you are right. I shouldn't apologize at all. Frankly, this is a dream house for me. But I'm doing just what you said, I'm projecting what other people are probably thinking ("What? She hasn't brought in the construction team to turn this old cabin into something modern? What the hell is she waiting for?")

    I'm personally very much at peace with where I am at this moment with it. In fact last night I was thinking that there's no point in doing anything else this year. Next year it is very likely that we will be purging the contents of our house in NJ. There are very few pieces I really want to keep, so rather than buy anything more for this house, I'm going to meld the two houses and then decide what I need.

    Regarding creature comforts, there are two big ones: 1) the "SHATH"--as I mentioned earlier, I don't have any overhead shower, just a hand shower hose and a clawfoot tub, so we have to get in the tub and then spritz off in less than 3 minutes when our 10 gallons of hot water is used up. It can wait until next year. 2) As far as the AC goes, I understand what you guys are saying about some people needing it for health reasons, but I'm not there yet, and I won't buy an AC for guests--at least not yet. I went without AC for 4 years when our central unit in NJ broke down and we managed. Plus there's no aesthetically pleasing place to put it. It truly hasn't been that bad up here. Maybe 2 nights. It helps that we are on the lake.

    So, I guess where I net out is, I am willing to at least work on my insecure knee-jerk reactions that people think I've gone from suburban "housewife of New Jersey" to country hillbilly.
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