How much of your life do you live your way?

[pinkytoe]

I guess that's true love to let your spouse eat whatever they wish. We have neighbors like that - the wife is trim, healthy and active. Her husband of 25 years is obese, diabetic and can barely get around. The thing about lifestyle choices that may affect health is that one is rarely lucky enough to go quickly. It is usually a long drawn out affair.

[Teacher Terry]

I never nag my husband about life style choices. We are all adults and get to make our own choices. My husband exercises a lot and slightly overweight. He has always ate too much candy. His mom used to remind him that Type 2 diabetes runs in the family. A year ago he was diagnosed. First all he ate was diabetic candy but now eats some regular candy too.

[iris lilies]

I never nag my husband about life style choices. We are all adults and get to make our own choices. My husband exercises a lot and slightly overweight. He has always ate too much candy. His mom used to remind him that Type 2 diabetes runs in the family. A year ago he was diagnosed. First all he ate was diabetic candy but now eats some regular candy too.

Agreed. i dont know how one “lets” one’s spouse do anything.

My DH, who has practically perfect health habits, had better not try to control my less than perfect eating and drinking and very occasional smoking. Nope!

[JaneV2.0]

Agreed. i dont know how one “lets” one’s spouse do anything.

My DH, who has practically perfect health habits, had better not try to control my less than perfect eating and drinking and very occasional smoking. Nope!

Agreed. I suppose if you want to assume the stern parent role, you can try. And even being a smug paragon of perfect health habits is unlikely to provide you with a sunshine and unicorns version of death.

[flowerseverywhere]

All of it. As I mentioned before by the time I was 18 I was fresh out of foster care and had to work or starve or become a prostitute. My sister and I were lucky to go to nursing school and my older brothers foster parents helped us find places to live and jobs. We ended up with an old woman who was incredibly good to us. Long hours at a nursing home while going to school taught us life lessons more valuable than book lessons. All five of us earned college degrees. A true American success story.
I was lucky and found a life partner, we headed to city hall, got married and headed west. 17moves later we retired in our early 50’s. Every day it seems we find something to be thankful for. I don’t care what anyone thinks. My life is full of charity work, lots of books, great cooking, outdoor adventures and wonderful friendships

I am surprised how how many people referenced others instead of themselves to answer the question how much of your life do you live your way.

[Ultralight]

All of it. As I mentioned before by the time I was 18 I was fresh out of foster care and had to work or starve or become a prostitute.

Which did you choose?

I am surprised how how many people referenced others instead of themselves to answer the question how much of your life do you live your way.

What do you mean?

[razz]

Which did you choose?



What do you mean?

Her post told you what she chose, UL. This response from you is almost snarky and rude. Read her whole beautiful post about courage, blessings, kindness of strangers and life choices.

[Ultralight]

Her post told you what she chose, UL. This response from you is almost snarky and rude. Read her whole beautiful post about courage, blessings, kindness of strangers and life choices.

I thought maybe she had to choose one for awhile and then at some point the positive things started going her way. I meant no offense.

[flowerseverywhere]

Which did you choose?



What do you mean?

i assume your first line is a poor attempt to be funny.

And by the question I asked, the title is how much of your life do you live your way? So what is the true answer for each person. So SO does not meet your expectations. Work sucks. I get it. None of us live in a fairy tale. We all need to figure out how to support ourselves. But I have met poor people who just have their basic needs met and are full of purpose and joy. And I think of a thrice divorced man I know sitting on a lake in a gorgeous house, fancy cars and fine wine whose kids have little to do with him. Which way would you prefer?
If there are obstacles to overcome in life is it helped by complaining about your poor circumstances or are there small joys you can find? Most of us have access to some green spaces we can walk in, birds to spot, library books to read, the ability to cook good food and good work to help the less fortunate? Can we not find our life purpose in the simple things? Can we make changes in ourselves (not someone else) to make our lives more of our own?

[Ultralight]

i assume your first line is a poor attempt to be funny.

And by the question I asked, the title is how much of your life do you live your way? So what is the true answer for each person. So SO does not meet your expectations. Work sucks. I get it. None of us live in a fairy tale. We all need to figure out how to support ourselves. But I have met poor people who just have their basic needs met and are full of purpose and joy. And I think of a thrice divorced man I know sitting on a lake in a gorgeous house, fancy cars and fine wine whose kids have little to do with him. Which way would you prefer?
If there are obstacles to overcome in life is it helped by complaining about your poor circumstances or are there small joys you can find? Most of us have access to some green spaces we can walk in, birds to spot, library books to read, the ability to cook good food and good work to help the less fortunate? Can we not find our life purpose in the simple things? Can we make changes in ourselves (not someone else) to make our lives more of our own?

I feel like, because of some circumstances outside my control or partly outside my control, and because of some bad decisions, I sort of let my life get away from me. I succumbed to fear.

So now I am thinking: How can I get back on track a little bit?