As I mentioned in another thread, a good friend's father passed away.
The showing (not really the funeral, as they are not having one) was really true to the guy's personality and values.
Ron was a blue collar guy and he was in the casket wearing the tattered old blue jeans he was always wearing. He had a regular t-shirt on. There were no flowers because he was not the fancy type. Instead, his motorcycle helmet and leather jacket were the decorations by his casket.
The photos were mostly of him and his wife, his friends, and his sons on their motorcycles. There were also pics of him with his wife, his sons, and his grandsons at picnics and parades in our hometown.
Ron's oldest son (my close friend) told me: "We wanted to be true to dad, no flowers, no fuss, nothing fancy."
This got me thinking about my parents and how their showings and such will be handled. My mom has already told me she wants me to write her obituary (while she is still alive, haha) and it must include this: "Anna was a lifelong liberal -- very liberal! -- Democrat! She enjoyed making jokes about Republicans, especially Trump, and her frequent refrain was 'Lobotomies for Republicans -- it ought to be the law!'"
My question to you is: Do the aesthetics of your showing or funeral matter to you? Do you think your next of kin will honor your wishes?