I just wanted to share positive (I am still trying on my 5 to 1 challenge). My oldest child, E, left a really bad situation in the last 2 months and of course I worried. She is pretty depleted from it all. But she is also doing well and her siblings are spending time with her, they are healthy, great people themselves. She went to see her sister and take niece to the pool this week, went hiking with her brother and girlfriend and then today is camping with a friend who is visiting. She also (as women tend to do) got a haircut!! When you have someone around with serious depression you know that is a big deal. She had long stringy hair for a long time, and there was always money for her ex to get a haircut, or some complicated trade where a friend would come cut her hair and barter for something. It rarely worked out. So now she has the cutest short haircut that she loves.
Her job is phone reservations for national parks, and she is an introvert who is getting a little burned out. She can afford to go to 4 days a week with her cheaper rent. However there is an opening in corporate sales and I am going to help her with resume and cover letter. In the past she would not have gone for any new positions, so this is a major step for her. Also it would be fewer calls, more email transactions, so a pace that would be beneficial to her. She is really good at her job, she wins prizes (like a business trip to the Grand Canyon!) so she has a good shot at it.
I also think my son is one of the best, most generous people I know. His rent is super cheap because his girlfriend's parents own the place and charge them a quarter of what rent should be. He offered to pay for her counseling. It makes me want to cry,