I am reflecting on what caused my recent break-up, what I would want in future relationships (and if I actually do want future relationships), and how I can do better.
Some of these things I have thought about before, some I have not, and some I have just not taken as seriously as I ought to.
One thing I was thinking about is how I simply must find someone who is also a minimalist. I have known this but did not take it seriously. But this absolutely has to be a deal breaker issue.
I have asked my closest friend and confidante to remind me of this when I start dating again. She is to really get on my case about it!
Another point I reflected on is how I need to make this very clear to anyone I date: My facial expressions, tone of voice, and meaning in my communication are not always congruent and to always trust what I say.
Sometimes my tone sounds fake or bland or upset when I am not any of those. Same goes for my facial expressions. This lack of congruence has been a longstanding problem in my interactions with other humans.
Anyone else go through break-ups recent or in the distant past that taught you some important lessons?