I am taking suggestions and philosophies about a situation. Someone responded to an old old thread about Glenn Yarborough. Now I remember what triggered that wuestion nearly 8 years ago.
Anyways—
In 2011 I sorted out all family photos my mother had, copied the important ones of ancient people onto a disc, and mailed off discs plus a few originals and small family artifacts to children of my cousins as well as to my brother. I didnt ask if they wanted the stuff,
I just mailed them out. Because I dont care what they do with the stuff! So that project took a year and it was such a damned relief to be done with it.
But a fly in the ointment is the eldest child of her generation. Her name is Brooke. She is estranged from her father, my cousin. She is about 45 years old. I dont talk to her father or his family much if at all so I dont know if she truly never contacts him, but last thing I heard was there had been no contact. (I am not “estranged” from this part of my family, none of us are much interested in each other.) we have cordial but distant relations. The last time we saw each other was in Edinburgh, Scotland in 2009.
I made up a packet of photos for her but did not send them. This small packet has been sitting around here for nearly 8 years.
I know how to contact her because she is an artist with a website.
So, what is your thought here: contact her to ask if she wants these photos? There are a couple of her mother, and of her when she was a baby, same with images of her father (my cousin ) alone and with her. or, just mail them to her? Or forget about it, pitch them.
There is also a pretty quilt I might send to her if she showed interest. Her great granmother made lovely quilts, and I have a couple, dont need this extra one. I am think that because she is an artist she might like it.
I dont want to be a busy body old lady who stirs up trouble and who insists that we all need to know our roots, because that is not what I think. And, I have seen this kind of thing go bad from interferring busybodies.
what say you?