That's discounting the different roles the participants were playing. She was in the victim role, complete with a ceaseless outpouring of sympathy from the Democrats and a consistently respectful request for facts from the Republican proxy. On the other hand, his role was defined by the Democrats line of questioning and oratory portraying him as a spoiled, alcoholic frat boy, guilty of crimes against an entire gender.
If their roles had been reversed I have no doubt the optics would have been the same and commentators would have found it unremarkable.