Absolutely. And I agree with Tybee, too. We gave our kids their undergrad degree--anything past that was on their dime. As for houses, that will be tough but I am hoping I can maybe make small contributions when the time comes. One son already has a house--the Champlain Housing Trust gave him the down payment.
When one of my son's needed help with rent one month he asked us for it, but it took him weeks to build up the nerve and he cried on the phone when he asked, because he had never asked us for anything.