When we had rentals we didn’t want tenants fixing things themselves but we did fix things promptly.
When we had rentals we didn’t want tenants fixing things themselves but we did fix things promptly.
Seems like many of us are not as "self-made" as we might like to think we are.
I am super dooper middle class with all of the cushion that implies. Have never claimed to be anything else.
But I can save money like a MF and my parents were happy about that. My mother used to urge me to “let loose, spend some of that!” Hahah. And one time I went on a shopping trip with her and bought a coffee table because, ya know, your house has to have a coffee table she said. Ugh always hated that coffee table. News flash: one’s houses does NOT need tomjave a coffee table and we dont have one today.
I remember thinking, when she urged me to spend some of my stash, whot, you want me to be a bag lady!!!???
Getting kicked out of my parents house in high school taught me that I had to work to pay all my bills.
But man, that student loan blind spot of mine. That is what really zinged me! haha
My heart daughter believes (believed?) in self made people. At one point she owned a twelve year old car and two trash bags of clothing and books. The car was also her house. She was too stubborn to take anything from anybody (I also think there were some deep seated issues about “deserving” things) she had a lot of very hard years, during which we helped her as much as she would let us.
and then finally she got in a tough spot, and she had a kid. And she looked at the kid and she took a deep breath and came to me and said “I need to borrow $900.” And I said “sure thing. You want a check now, or cash tomorrow?” And she said cash, because she didn’t have a bank account. And she cried.
it’s been 7 years. She has learned that it’s ok to let me hand her groceries or front the power bill now and then. We were able to cover a semester of tuition, and I think we were the proudest “parents” in the room at her graduation. She has a master’s degree, and a house (and a mortgage) and a new very old car, and a job that disqualifies her for government services and provides benefits.
anybody who doesn’t need help sometime is pretty lucky. And I think a lot of people think they didn’t need it because it was early, pervasive, and normal.
but if your kids actually need help and you can help them, I think you do.
Your mother is/was very different from mine. When I went to visit my parents sometime around age 30 I borrowed their car to go visit friends. I'd gone through a fast food drive through window and my change was $.04. I tossed the four pennies in the tray space on the dashboard. The next day my mother handed them to me and told me that every penny counts...
And my entire childhood we did not have a coffee table. But somehow I lived. SO and I do have a coffee table but we got it on super double special sale at Ikea for $15. The legs started breaking off the first time I tried to drag it aside so I could vacuum under it because...Ikea. 12 years later we still have it. Instead of sitting on the original legs it sits on two of the $20 Target pods that used to make up our living room credenza.
Oh, my mom was proud that I was frugal and could save money. She just liked to needle me now and then about my riches.
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