So a woman at my work (which is 85% women) got her hair did. As usual when any woman at work gets her hair did, she gives me and the other guys a look, as though she expects a compliment. It is subtle. But that is the look.
I would have liked to have said: "You new hairstyle looks really nice!"
But I said nothing. The other guys said nothing.
Then another woman walked up and said: "You look so beautiful! Your hair looks amazing! But of course, no one else noticed, did they?"
And this woman looked over at me and two other guys disapprovingly.
Then the woman with the hair do said: "Well, they're just dudes. They don't notice."
One guy actually said: "I did notice, but I held back and did not say anything. But it does look nice."
Here is the thing: I feel like commenting on a woman's hair, body, clothes, etc. at work is viewed as sexual harassment. So I literally say nothing. It is safer.
Anyone else go through this?