Originally Posted by
bae
I had a long discussion with my father last night on a very related topic. He is gay. I have been collecting his stories, those of his husband, and those of their friends for some time. My father is 77 years old.
When he was in his 20s, he faced losing everything if he came out - his job, his community, his life. Possibly jail time, depending on the circumstances. Just when headway was being made for gay rights, the AIDS epidemic hit. I was a large portion of my father's friends and social circle wither away and die. It was much more personal for him, I was just a kid.
Part of our discussion last night revolved around his concept that "they'd pretty much won", which centers around the privileged white upper-middle-class male gays embracing a very binary view of the world, and defining "winning" as embracing the heteronormative view of "marriage", and integrating into a very patriarchal binary society. While selling out queer folks, intersex folks, trans folks, and a lot of other folks.
Pride events have turned into consumerist frenzies for wealthy vacationing gays, and those who are still heavily oppressed, or invisible, are pushed into the margins.
So, it was an interesting conversation. Yes, things are "better" for some, for others the situation isn't greatly improved, and the administration's recent natterings have a distinct tinge of Berlin in the 30s about to fall to the nationalists and the queer life of the city destroyed in bonfires and beatings.