I didn't offer help because 1) I had too few details to work with, and 2) I'm not sure there's much you can do save watch it unfold, offer support, and hope the situation resolves itself.
I didn't offer help because 1) I had too few details to work with, and 2) I'm not sure there's much you can do save watch it unfold, offer support, and hope the situation resolves itself.
My family put up with it because everyone obviously wanted to see the kids. I got sick of it and cut all ties but I had my own kids. My parents put up with it until the bitch convinced my brother to dump them. They wanted to see the grandkids of course. No real advice from people because they hold all the cards because of the grandchild.
I spent more than my fair share of time in probate and family court hearing cases ahead of mine. Other than the court using a different color folder for children whose birth was out of wedlock I could not discern any difference in the way cases were handled. The focus was on the child's interest, not the parents' marital status. Parentage is easily proven with DNA and rights follow from that. Your state or province may vary.
Cutting out a sibling is much easier than a child.
I actually haven't posted here in years, but was feeling so anxious about the election tomorrow (I am a liberal) that I thought I would visit my old online community, and was impulsed-itemed (just made up a verb) into answering this one. Re: gaslighting, I believe I have been very subtly manipulated in this way for years. It is subtle enough that I wasn't able to be sure it was happening until I started emailing myself at every instance, for several years, and am now sure. For the moment, I will remain in my situation in order to keep family harmony, which does exist (and there are a lot of good times, just some infuriating moments as well), until our youngest is in college in 2 1/2 years. It is heartbreaking to even think about, because leaving dissolves all the holiday happiness that I would normally look forward to. It also would cut me off from my grandchildren from my stepdaughter. And I agree with Teacher Terry: I'm already estranged from my sister, but that is barely a blip on my radar compared to how awful it would be to cut myself off from one of my own children.
I am so sorry you are going through this.
Update.... took therapist's advice and stayed away. DS came alone for Xmas eve and a few days later with GD.... it was lovely. I still am not trusting and know he is a "flying monkey". I talked to a therapist in Oct and cannot get in to see her until Jan. I feel better knowing what I am up against.
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