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    Gaslighting

    Not to go into all kinds of detail but talked to a therapist on the phone recently that said I was being "gaslighted." Told me to keep my distance from that person.

    Would appreciate others experiences.

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    One of my coworkers thought "gaslighting" was illegal until just a few months ago.
    I came from a real tough neighborhood. I put my hand in some cement and felt another hand." -- Rodney Dangerfield

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    If that is the case, I encourage you to read up so you can cut her/him off at the pass. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/b...ns-gaslighting

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    Yes, I have experienced this. It seems to be the tool of choice of narcissistic personalities. Reading up on narcissistic personalities may help a lot, too. This book might be helpful too:

    https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/09...?ie=UTF8&psc=1

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    Plenty of experience here, anything in particular like how to cut ties or how to recover or how to deal with the 'flying monkeys' that support this crap?

    To start just believe in yourself, keep a journal or notes of what is happening even if you never use it, don't get into arguments expecting anything from them, and recognize that most people would rather believe you are crazy or emotional than this person is really doing what you say. That last one was very hard to deal with. If you have legal ties such as marriage or work do NOT underestimate them. They are very capable of remembering things but choose to pretend they forget.

    you can PM me if you want to keep this off-group but I am willing to respond here as well.

    ZG

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    In your own words, what exactly is gaslighting?
    I came from a real tough neighborhood. I put my hand in some cement and felt another hand." -- Rodney Dangerfield

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    I, for one, am delighted to see this oh-so evocative word make a comeback!

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaslight_(1940_film)

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    I had no idea what gaslighting was or that it existed but have encountered manipulative individuals. Interesting the topics that are brought up for discussion.
    Gandhi: Happiness is when what you think, what you say and what you do are in harmony .

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    Another resource for you www.melanietoniaevans.com

    I've had too much experience with gaslighting.
    The most difficult was from boss at a job that I really loved; ultimately, I quit to get away.
    Now I can spot it a mile away!

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