I disagree Steve. My ex was perfect on paper but impossible to live with. My DH is the opposite. I gave him a landing zone and if he doesn’t use it I don’t help him look for his stuff. Been married 3xs and beyond happy with this one. We reached a agreement on what would work for both of us and we have both held up our part of the bargain 20 years later. Their relationship sounds good in all the important places.