Yes! That is the sort of thing I am thinking about. Harlan sees you as his human. That is it. Harlan doesn’t care what you do to provide dog food. When you are gone, it only matters that you are gone, not if it is work or the library, or a date or the store... Harlan has certain expectations specifically of you, because of the role you play in his life and his expectation is that you will be eternally (as far as a dog can imagine) true to that role.
It is a comfortable and important role for you, and you and Harlan are in agreement about what it entails, and so you shape your life around being a good human for Harlan.
i think when people have such strong images of us, we have to shape ourselves in either cooperation or opposition. We can’t simply ignore the expectation without distancing ourselves from the expecter.
(pastor’s wife is certainly one of those as well.)
there are are things I do for my kids that my kids take for granted, which I see as a sign that I am doing what I wish to do successfully. When I do those sort of things for my d❤️D, she says “thank you”, which always causes me to look confused and say “of course.” Instead of “you’re welcome.”
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Originally Posted by Ultralight
