I went back and read our terms of service. Here are some of the things I find, that we agree to honor when we use the forum:
”Each poster is expected to treat every other poster with respect at all times. We all have to agree to disagree at times, this is true of any human relationship, but we can disagree without being disagreeable. Name calling and other ill-willed behavior will earn you a warning from the Moderator of the Forum. If you receive such a note or see a warning post, please work with the Moderator to understand the issue involved and don't do it again. See the Moderators section for more information.
These Forums are provided as a community service. Some of the Forums are moderated by volunteers as their time allows (Thanks Volunteers!) others are (for the most part) unmoderated. Therefore, all users are expected to adhere to the following etiquette guidelines:
* Please be courteous to others and remember that the purpose of this forum is to support each other. We encourage positive, friendly debates that provide informative content to all readers. Flaming is not allowed and will result in removal of your posts and termination of your account.
* Name calling and other ill-willed or inappropriate behavior will earn you a warning from the Moderator of the Forum. If you receive such a note or see a warning post, please work with the Moderator to understand the issue involved and don't do it again. See the Moderators section for more information. “
I think these are some of the reasons that people report posts as offensive. There is a desire to honor the agreed upon parameters of our community, to maintain a community of mutual respect, support, and friendliness.
I wish there was a way for people to leave, but their membership still remains searchable. Tyzen or something like that I seem to remember was one UL drove to stop posting and I believe there was another. When he first joined, his posts reminded me of a child I used to know, who just kept asking why (to the point of annoyance).
But this:
in my past experiences, have been from more aggressive people, that so many want to limit exposure to. I view discussions as different from arguing.
I do miss Lessisbest, though. I seem to remember a post that I wanted to ask her about.
Edit: I myself, have been guilty of driving a poster away (Bunny's). She was trying to prove a point with hyperbolics and I called her on it.
My experience in many forums has been that many people seem to want to "have the last word", so to speak. They forget that they can always get up and walk away from the internet, that they can ignore <enter a user name>. Maybe it is the degree of anonymity? A sense of "ownership" of the particular site because of longevity or number of postings (indication of participation, etc)? I don't know...
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I remember when redfox left. She was an example of someone who could be annoying with her arguments (she often called forum members racist) but I still enjoyed many of her postings.
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heh, one time UL was being particularly nasty to Zoe, and I asked him he was this combative with women in his real life, he asked for the moderators to censure me for using that word. So it appeared that it was ok for him to be nasty, but not ok for me to call him on that.However, that doesn't mean it's OK for someone to make nasty, demeaning remarks without being called on it.
In general I liked red fox also. I think she asked for financial advice and then got mad if I am remembering this correctly.
I lost a kitchen knife the other day.
Lost it.
I never lose stuff.
But then I took visual inventory of my apartment, my stuff, and by hell... I am slowly approaching the point where I dare call myself a minimalist of any kind.
I am confused. How could you possibly lose a kitchen knife? Where could it go? There is nothing for it to be behind or under. It is too large and sharp and metal for Harlan to eat.
i lose stuff all the time, but that is because there is too much stuff.
I believe we have lost knives via disposal in pizza boxes.
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