There is so much focus on gaslighting these days, I think a few of us are examining our relationships. I knew about this years ago with my ex, there was some type version of it going on for a long time. Mostly just weirdness that kept on throwing me off, I never decided if it was on purpose or not. The best thing I decided was that it didn't matter. The other big time this happened was that former boss, he didn't remember things correctly quite often, and was really good at not answering things. I literally felt reality was shaky at the end.
Now I am recalling more of how I grew up, I am seeing more how great my family is compared to others first of all. I am done with the angsty young adult years many years ago. But I still see how much I do not trust my memory, and how often my mother tells me that something is not how I remember her telling me. I know from the generation and her personality she really does not want to share things, so maybe she forgets she tells me. Maybe I am reading into things or hearing what I am not supposed to (I tend to notice and hear things around me like at coffee shops when people with me don't). And maybe I have a problem with my memory and perceptions. That is hard, my DR says I really shouldn't call myself crazy but that is a struggle. I don't really talk about things from our childhood at all, I don't want to get it wrong.
I do remember some things I trust that are personal. I remember being in the hospital after a car accident and head injury at 5, that is my first memory. I remember a field trip in kindergarten to China town and the taste of green tea. I always sought out green tea after that. I remember sitting on my mom's lap to hear a story at night.