We have named my oldest son as executor. He is the most capable of my 3 kids and extremely trustworthy. Of my husband’s 2 kids one I don’t trust at all due to things he has done. His youngest is willing to help my oldest if needed. We have spelled out distribution in our wills. Not going to hire a lawyer to do what 2 of our kids can easily do. If we live a long time the only thing left will be the house. My sister handled my mom’s and it was fine. If I had a big estate it would be different but we don’t.