I have a friend 10 years older than me who has also requested to borrow the urn assuming she goes first. It’s very beautiful. I just went online and filled out the form for the feds. They approve it and you are guaranteed a spot. You can choose to be buried also. The veteran is free and the spouse 400. It also includes a beautiful engraved plaque. When we were in Wisconsin we stopped to visit all the family graves and had to ask where they were in the office. The lady told us we should buy spots now to be with family. Too funny! I told her we have free spots where we live.