Yes, very much agree with you. That's so tragic about your SO...cannot imagine...
I had tried lifestyle changes and already ate and exercised well before I went, with GREAT reluctance on the BP meds...
Parents and two siblings all had/have HBP...but I was convinced I could moderate mine with lifestyle...still not convinced that I cannot lower, to a reasonable level, with natural medicine--and more meditation/breathing exercises...
My life has been miserable the last year with the chronic insomnia and heart palpitations...lack of sleep is very unhealthy...
Without taking melatonin at night I do not sleep.
The Amlodipine was cut from 5 mg to 2.5 but the heart issues remain. Will go to Doc and get off of this...it's pretty dreadful according to many users who have suffered many of these same side effects...
There are certain conditions that do require prescribed meds--such as acute infections and such, but for many other conditions--such as your SO had, there are often gentler treatments and lifestyle modifications that can help w/o the awful side effects.
If I were you, I'd be very bitter--how do you deal with that?