Officially annoyed with friend

[catherine]

Couldn't you just tell him you were sitting there, and ask him to move--maybe point out the laptop? Maybe he could plate his own food from now on.

I did that, and he moved and scuttled about in a daze as if he didn't know which of the other 3 seats he should sit in. It just irritates me that he truly doesn't recognize simple social cues. Another example: One time DH had to go to the hospital for a regular procedure (radio frequency ablation) in which they put him under general anesthesiology and give him pain medication to deal with recovery. He is always out of sorts for a couple of days.

Well, one was scheduled when I had to be out of town. So DH reluctantly asked BIL to take him to the outpatient surgery department. What could go wrong, right? All he had to do was drive DH to the hospital, wait, and then drive him back home.

I was in the middle of back-to-back interviews when BIL called to say that he had brought DH home, but that HE felt that HE needed to go to the hospital because now HE didn't feel well (unspecified). I told him to call Uber.

Later that day I learned that he had ASKED DH to take him to the hospital!!! Didn't he realize that we asked him to DRIVE DH because DH COULDN'T DRIVE???

With pain medication approaching its half-life, DH drove his brother to the hospital. BIL never asked DH once how he was feeling. All he did was freak out about his own situation (turns out he had very high blood pressure and he was in the hospital for two days).

Again--it's all about him.

Regarding the plating: I made him dinner because we happened to have a lot and I didn't want a lot of waste, and I was actually plating ALL of our dinners.

[Teacher Terry]

I would have buried him in the backyard by now)

[JaneV2.0]

I would have buried him in the backyard by now)

He sounds genuinely impaired; Is he ever going to be able to live alone?

[Teacher Terry]

He could live in a group home.

[iris lilies]

He sounds genuinely impaired; Is he ever going to be able to live alone?

He IS genuinely impaired but likely he would not test out impaired enough to take up group home resources, and besides, he probably wouldnt agree to it. Remember, he CAN drive. Amd shop for expensive cheeses. And get super high end haircuts. He knows how to identify the fine things in life.

[catherine]

He could live in a group home.

Yeah, we don't know what's going to happen to him.

Sorry for the hijack.

[Zoe Girl]

Yeah, we don't know what's going to happen to him.

Sorry for the hijack.

Oh no worries, I enjoy when these conversations go in different directions. Puts some things in perspective (however I still am okay that I am annoyed)

[Simplemind]

Zoe do you feel able to cut to the chase and talk to her about your perceptions? Sounds like there is a good explanation hiding under the behaviors. She might be too embarrassed to bring it up on her own.

[iris lilies]

It is rude that she didnt call when she said she would, therefore keeping you from a hike you could have done.

With people like that I tell them “call me if you are in the area and if I am available, we can meet up.” I no longer wait for them to call.

[Tybee]

It is rude that she didnt call when she said she would, therefore keeping you from a hike you could have done.

With people like that I tell them “call me if you are in the area and if I am available, we can meet up.” I no longer wait for them to call.

I think that is a great point--I would not wait for her, either. She has been kind of inconsiderate. It's fine to acknowledge your feelings and realize she has been inconsiderate. It's also a goo idea to protect yourself from her being inconsiderate going forward.
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