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    it is an odd obsession, afterall we all moved out of our parents house so noone could ever get a say again in whether we were doing adulthood right, sorry but those apron strings were cut with my first rent check ... But I guess if you can never afford to move out of your parents house ...
    If you want something to get done, ask a busy person. If you want them to have a nervous breakdown that is.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LDAHL View Post
    I keep hearing people use the word ďadultingĒ as if growing up was optional.

    Marriage, faith, family, career and even friendship exceeding the acquaintance level seem to be not worth the effort and risk it takes. I donít see how so many people can refuse to invest in their own happiness without guaranteeing themselves a miserable life.
    The latest estimates are that happiness is 50% heritable and it's certainly mutable; I'm not sure about "investing" in it--maybe that's just an accounting trope.

    None of the conventions you cite--except friendship, and possibly "faith"--however that may be understood--have contributed to my happiness, particularly. I'm certainly not "miserable." I'm sure Millennials will--like all of us--work out which menu items contribute to their well-being, and discard the rest.

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    There are no guarantees and everyone is different, but I believe you have to work at being happy. Itís not an entitlement or a lottery prize. You canít wait around for other people or institutions to contribute to your happiness like a Salvation Army bellringer Thatís why perpetual victims and parasites tend to such bitterness.

    I have found that many of the things that give me the most joy also extract the most terror, toil and tears. I can even look in retrospect at some of my biggest defeats and failures across a gap of years and appreciate the cosmic joke.

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    JP, you can get a medical POA for your SO if not married

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    Quote Originally Posted by LDAHL View Post
    There are no guarantees and everyone is different, but I believe you have to work at being happy. It’s not an entitlement or a lottery prize. You can’t wait around for other people or institutions to contribute to your happiness like a Salvation Army bellringer That’s why perpetual victims and parasites tend to such bitterness.

    I have found that many of the things that give me the most joy also extract the most terror, toil and tears. I can even look in retrospect at some of my biggest defeats and failures across a gap of years and appreciate the cosmic joke.
    They say you have to work at marriage, too. I never believed that, unless the generally-understood definition of work is different from mine. I do believe that "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger." and also that life tends to work out for the better, though recent events in my life strain credulity.

    I do think one has a great deal of influence over one's happiness, but whether that's by sheer strength of will or the role of genetic influence, I couldn't say. I agree it's not up to others to provide it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JaneV2.0 View Post
    They say you have to work at marriage, too. I never believed that, unless the generally-understood definition of work is different from mine. I do believe that "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger." and also that life tends to work out for the better, though recent events in my life strain credulity.

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    I have found marriage to be fairly labor-intensive myself; but when I amortize the work and aggravation over the life of the investment thereís a pretty favorable ROI.

    I agree with the Stoic line of thought that what does not kill me postpones the inevitable.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LDAHL View Post
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    I agree with the Stoic line of thought that what does not kill me postpones the inevitable.
    I can't argue with that!

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    I can say for the most part that I do not even know who these people are that ya’ll are naming.

    I think that state of ignorance is one I will continue to cultivate. Ommmmm....

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