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    Continuing problems with pastor from previous church

    Folks who’ve been here a long time may remember the issues I had with the priest (Orthodox) from my previous parish which caused me to leave the parish in early 2008. Not long after, he tried taking me down online, even going so far as to try to get me in trouble with the regional Orthodox group I was involved with. He was a women stay at home right from the beginning of marriage, have many babies, homeschool only type. I was an outspoken single woman which he didn’t like.

    Anyway, I’ve been much happier at current parish. I have had no contact at all with priest from previous parish. I barely have contact with anyone who attends that church. I found out recently from a friend that used to go there that that priest is talking about how I’ve fallen and need to be reformed since I’m gone from church in the summer when I’m scuba diving. I hate gossip!

    Anyway, a young woman from my current parish is marrying a guy from the old parish - where the troublesome priest still is. Wedding is this summer at my current parish. The troublesome priest will be doing the wedding with my priest. Normally, I’d be singing, but that means missing diving. I was also asked to do one of the readings at the wedding. I politely declined, saying I was taking a lot of trips this summer. When I was asked, they didn’t have a firm date.

    The real reason I’m skipping this wedding is that I don’t want to be anywhere near the old priest. The family doesn’t know that and they don’t need to. I did warn the bride’s parents that when I was at the other parish, the priest had no issues getting very political (very conservative) about issues like gay marriage during wedding sermons. That has no place and a lot of guests always got upset. I don’t know if he’s like that now, but I felt I had to at least warn them, and they do what they like with the information. Sad situation, but keeping myself away from the wedding is the best thing for me to do.

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    Isn't this gossip?

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    Quote Originally Posted by ToomuchStuff View Post
    Isn't this gossip?
    What - me warning the parents how the priest acted during sermons when I was in that parish? If I did nothing, and he got all political during the sermon, I would have felt bad about it. I told the parents that I don’t know how he is now, but this is what he did 10 years ago. Priest is a loose cannon and no one reins him in.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tradd View Post
    What - me warning the parents how the priest acted during sermons when I was in that parish?
    No, telling us: talk of a personal, sensational, nature The part of the definition of gossip that fits?

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    I understand where this is coming from. Religious abuse is rampant, and I went through it in the 80s and 90s. A simple decision like skipping a wedding can consume vast amounts of oneís thoughts leading up to the occasion. Itís all about religious guilt and cult-like control over a persons entire being.

    Youíre making the right decision. Stick with it.

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    Nature is the quickest route to the spiritual, IMO.
    Send a particularly nice card/gift to the couple involved, and enjoy your dives guilt-free.

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    Good move, Tradd. No need to commit to going and decline it guilt free.

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    A minister once said he would prefer someone be on their boat thinking about church than to be in church thinking about being on their boat.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Teacher Terry View Post
    A minister once said he would prefer someone be on their boat thinking about church than to be in church thinking about being on their boat.
    Oh boy did I need to hear that!
    Since I work for a church and attend that same church....it always feels more like work on a Sunday than a place of worship. I may just skip the next nice Sunday and go kayak.
    Float On: My "Happy Place" is on my little kayak in the coves of Table Rock Lake.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Float On View Post
    Since I work for a church and attend that same church....it always feels more like work on a Sunday than a place of worship. I may just skip the next nice Sunday and go kayak.
    If you are a church secretary or church clerk, Sunday is your busiest 'work' day as that is the day many people see you and remember something they need or forgot to tell you.

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