I have come to a point in my life where I have recognized I need to 'clean up' some old things and part of this was to forgive two people in my life. But the thing is: I don't know how.
The first person hurt me badly a long long time ago. She acknowledged she did but seems to have moved on pretty well. This kind of bothers me. And even upsets me. How can she hurt someone and still live a normal life, as for me I have been thinking about this pretty much every day for a long time. Even talking about it makes me cry. But I have to move on too.
I want to forgive this person what she did but am I going to sit with her and tell her that I forgive her, face to face? She might not take me serious because this happened a long time ago (18 years) and could wonder if I am sane at all to wait so long with this to deal with. Or am I just going to write a letter and tear it up on the beach and forget about what happened.
The second person is my mother. We had a serious argument and I decided not to talk to her for a while. I felt she did me wrong and I still do. But she passed away one summer morning. And I felt guilty over my anger right after her passing. But after a while I figured she really had hurt me and owed me an apology. Even if she passed away.
I know this sounds silly but how can you forgive someone that has passed away?