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    NewGig in New England

    The new part isn't what I'm doing for work (I write, edit, and sell stuff).

    I declared that 2019 is the last year I'll sell stuff as a profession, I haven't bought anything for resale since. After 30+ years in retail that is mighty odd! That's one of the new things. Another is that at the end of 2018 I submitted a memoir to a publisher I'd been working on it for 10 years.

    The fallout from that is huge.

    I'm a childhood abuse survivor with PTSD, since 4. I became a hoarder. I'm going to change that; I am changing that. I can't move on to whatever else until I change that. THAT's part of the new gig. The stuff wasn't hard for me to get rid of, that was never my problem. My problem was that I needed a mess to feel safe. One hundred items or 3, I'd make them into a mess or clean them up and then quickly find a reason to mess them up again. I know the history behind why I did and do this, but I'm in my 60s, so learning new ways isn't as easy as it might be!

    The rest of it is changing our lifestyle so it is more towards the self-sufficient, low consumer, much more minimalist and frugal lifestyle I want.

    We weren't raised in this part of the country and both of us live and work at home. (Good thing we get along!)

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    and wishing you success as you move ahead. What in particular attracted you to these forums? There is lots of good advice and experience to share among us but where are you looking to explore?
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    I am looking for simplifying strategies: like removing duplicate items. But I've found or already use a lot of the more obvious ones. I read through the list of 100 frugal things someone else posted (from Apartment Therapy) and most of those that apply, we're doing, many of them we've always done.

    But I'm looking for general ideas to help me get where I want to go: the lagom idea of enough but not too much.

    Thank you for the good wishes too!

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    Welcome, NewGig!

    And welcome to New England. I was raised there (Connecticut), and I am returning there (Vermont). It's a great part of the country--I hope you enjoy it.

    Thank you for sharing your story, and congratulations for having the courage to change.

    I'm trying to downsize also, and to prepare for when our income will be drastically reduced (in about 3 years when I stop doing my consulting work). So many people here are already walking the walk--I'm sure you'll pick up a few things, and I also look forward to learning from your journey.
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    Thanks! I love Vermont, not where we live, but we spend a fair amount of time there.

    We're planning on aging in place, so I guess a piece of what I'm looking for are long-term household changes I can make to facilitate staying here as long as possible.

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    Quote Originally Posted by NewGig View Post
    We're planning on aging in place, so I guess a piece of what I'm looking for are long-term household changes I can make to facilitate staying here as long as possible.
    My ex-wife was from the Boston area (near the NH border). Many visits, many beautiful places.

    Has the place you're in been designed at all with an eye toward aging in place (wider doorways, bathroom large enough for at least a shower chair, critical needs [like laundry] on one level)? Some of these are hard to retrofit and yet commonly needed. Our neighbors live in a house similar in layout and timeframe to ours and they've done things like move the washer and dryer upstairs to a spare bedroom so no one must use the stairs (though they still use the stairs for storage). You might also want to think about how you will address things like lawn care, snow clearing, and furnace filters (or boiler maintenance) if/when you cannot do that yourself.
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    My husband and I are considering aging in place as well. We are in NH.

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    Quote Originally Posted by artist View Post
    My husband and I are considering aging in place as well. We are in NH.
    We're from the same basic area. We're in the Monadnock region.

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    Welcome! We lived in upstate New York when young and it’s a beautiful part of the country. It sounds like you have a lot of insight into your issues. We downsized 7 years ago and moved back into town from the suburbs. We love being able to walk places.

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    Welcome, Newgig. I applaud your determination! Being around your same age, I think it's easier to learn new things actually, because I'm not as distracted by kids, career, etc. I'm finding myself in a time of introspection and exploration again.

    I should re-visit more downsizing strategies, too. And the 100 frugal things? Not sure I'm familiar, so will revisit that, too.
    My therapist told me the way to achieve true inner peace is to finish what I start. So far today, I have finished two bags of M&Ms and a chocolate cake. I feel better already!

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