Thanks, pinkytoe, this is helpful, just knowing that I need to expect the unexpected with regard to emotions and also possible change of mind. I don't think I'd ever move back to NJ permanently. I also worry a little that now we have this whole constellation of medical care in NJ, and we have access to really good doctors and hospitals right where we are. So I foresee following up twice a year by coming down here and then handling potential emergency situations in VT.
Funny thing is, I never considered NJ to be my "identity." When I went to my nephew's wedding in Minnesota, some people commented that I don't have a Jersey accent, which I was VERY grateful to hear. I've always considered myself a New Englander, which is one check mark in favor of our. new life in VT. I still don't really identify with my neighbors. It's just my house I like.