This is where my one size fits all wedding gift becomes a valuable boundary. That is what they get. If they really want us there and we can afford it, we go. If it is just an invitation so that they can try to get money for their house or honeymoon, we don't give them money and we don't go.

WE have gotten incredibly sweet thank you notes from some of the brides for the gift, so I know it is appropriate and something young women actually ar excited to get.