A couple of days ago I emailed my father and sibs to ask a question about my father's property, which had been moved from one state to another by my brother.
I had asked my brother about a specific item, a valuable heirloom that Dad told me he wanted me to take care of. I asked if it had been found and transported.
Complete radio silence from all parties. Two sibs were out there working on this transfer, and Dad had asked me to caretake this item.
Have no idea where it is or if it made trip, but no one is answering me.
This is completely typical for them. I will ask a question and be ignored.
Then, when they want me to do something for them, it is an emergency, drop what you are doing and rush out and do what we tell you to do, even if it does not make sense to you.
I am fed up. My husband says just keep acting in a straightforward fashion and eventually they will have to deal with me as an adult with rights in the matter.
Should I just walk away from the whole mess and stop trying to help my father? It is so difficult as he gave me none of the tools I need, and sibs are ignoring my requests for information. One, the POA, is actively acting as my dad's financial agent, even though he is not doing what Dad asks him to do.
I do not want to escalate this, so how would you handle it if you were I?