I don't necessarily hate rituals but perhaps I do. I agree, go to the son's concert. That newborn won't know he/she was 3d old instead of 1d old when you first viewed. Hubby and I neither one, can remember our "wedding dance song". I can describe my dress-I took it to Goodwill so someone else could use it. I do not have it in a "air sucked out" box. Neither of us wear wedding rings. We don't do something fancy on our anniversary every year-drives my sister nuts. We take a trip to somewhere in the US we want to see on our "every 5th" anniversaries. It's one of our vacations those years. Oh, and I don't wear black to funerals!