My mother has early Alzheimer's as I have mentioned. She lives alone about a mile away from me and still manages pretty well with some help from me and my sister. On Saturday morning, she took a fall down her front hall stairs. Luckily, she did not break a hip and only has a small fracture of the L-1 transverse process. She has a bit of pain but we are grateful she wasn't injured more severely. Her good friend invited her to recuperate at her house since everything is on one floor and she has a guest room, so Mom is there for the next week or two.
In the meantime, I am spending as much time as possible at Mom's house cleaning, doing laundry, and a bit of stealth decluttering. I feel a twinge of guilt because I had earned her trust by never getting rid of stuff without her OK. I think it's different now because she has way too much stuff and clutter and that makes it harder for her to function, not to mention more likely to trip over crap. She has bad asthma and there are so many dust collecting things laying around. I tossed things like a pretty piece of ribbon here, a piece of tissue paper and a ziploc baggie there (no precious items by any means). I did lots of laundry and tossed things that were hopelessly stained. I got rid of about 30 - 50 pairs of socks (she still probably has 200 pairs). I founds lots of beautiful clothing stored away that she doesn't even know that she has. I want to get rid of her throw rugs as they are a falling hazard and bad for her asthma, but I didn't want to be too bold and I decided to discuss with her first.
Her friend said I need to be more aggressive and not let Mom "boss me around." There is no way that she bosses me around, but I try not to be too heavy-handed out of respect for her as an adult woman who is going through difficult times both mentally and physically. I don't want to boss HER around. It's an interesting balancing act. Overall I feel good about what I've accomplished, but it's a never-ending struggle. It would actually be easier for me to just take over and do things my way, and I've been proud of myself for handling the situation with a bit more finesse.