Tybee - thank you for all the great info. It gave me a lot to think about. If the 1% rule applies, then the house would not make the cut, but then I don't know very many situations where that would work out. 1% of value is quite a lot.
The idea of researching it all does not appeal to me, so I'm taking that as a good indicator that it will be best to wait until we're ready to move. It makes it easier that another nice listing just went on the market at a much better price, so I'm feeling better about letting the other house go. There will always be nice houses. I remember reading that about the stock market too, somebody said, "There will always be opportunities." and it makes me feel better when we miss out on something big. Dh and I are not big risk takers so we miss out on a lot of opportunities. On the other hand, we lead a relatively peaceful life.
But I've bookmarked the two books you mentioned just in case. It might make for some good reading as general education.
iris lilies - you're right, it's not really an investment so much as a wish to have a house I can move to when I'm ready. We have 3 pets and it's hard to find rentals that would allow that many pets, so my thinking was that having a house of our own would make that a non-issue. And if we could make some money at the same time, well, that would be just dandy. But we don't have the personality for landlording, and with it being a seller's market in that area at the moment, it goes against the advice of buying when everyone is selling. If the market continues to rise and housing is much more expensive when we buy, well, that's just life. How long did you think about buying before you bought your Hermann house?