I spent a lifetime conceding to the wishes of in-laws at every holiday. To this day, I regret it. I wanted to have our own little family traditions but their expectations and traditions always ruled. Now DD has married into the same family dynamic and is expected to concede to her husband's family wishes even if it means driving three hours in horrid weather to be with them at every holiday. I want to tell her - make your own lives - but I know how difficult that is when the in-laws don't even consider that an option. It just plain sucks...that this is happening again to her. I guess it's good we're so far away so she only has to deal with his side of the family.