Originally Posted by
sweetana3
Way too many people without boundaries. I always wonder what is held over their heads so they fulfill someone else's demands?
Maybe we lived too far from all our relatives. We simply told them no traveling over the holidays since it was way too stressful. We visited at other times of the year when driving was not so dangerous.
Change the "traditions". Serve a simple brunch or serve yourself something like a chili bar etc. If you have a tree, let the kids decorate and live with what they do. Stop the madness of trying to be magazine perfect. Choose alternate years to visit houses. So many options out there to simplify.
But the basic thing always seems to come down to boundaries. Once you are an adult, you truly are allowed to make your own choices.