Confused and in love at 65

[corkym]

Tammy - I think that is what I really wanted to hear. I wanted someone to validate what I had been thinking. i thought I was thinking wrong so didn't bring it up. You just gave me the kick in the butt I needed. No more contacting him. Its all on him now. This feels very freeing.

Thank you very much Tammy. Grasshopper is learning.....slow....but learning.

[bae]

You might find bell hooks' book "All About Love: New Visions" to be quite helpful in your situation.

[Tammy]

I learned a lot from reading this book bs k in the day when I was a more religious person - the concepts stayed with me:

https://books.google.com/books/about...d=-YVDDgAAQBAJ

I’ll give Bae’s a read too. It sounds good.

[razz]

Is it possible that one can be in love with the idea of being in love?

[corkym]

razz - I think so. I know I had such a difficult marriage without much romance and after 45 years someone said they wanted me and loved me I was so shocked and enamored I didn't even stop to think. It felt like I was a different person living in a fantasy world. Yep, I was more than likely in love with love. I felt so empty for so long and all of a sudden I felt special. Fortunately it was someone I was already friends with and I knew he was a good man that I trusted.

[corkym]

Tammy - That looks like it would be a really good book. I for sure need to learn more about boundaries. I have always been a doormat and too agreeable to everything. Thank you for the recommendation.

[corkym]

Bae - I for sure will be checking this one out. It sounds pretty intriguing. Thank you so much for letting me know about it.

[bae]

Bae - I for sure will be checking this one out. It sounds pretty intriguing. Thank you so much for letting me know about it.

After a recent divorce after a 40-year relationship, this book was very helpful in refinding myself.

[corkym]

bae - Wow, 40 years. I am sure that is one of the most painful things in your life you had to go through. Thank you so much for letting me know about the book. I for sure will be looking into it.