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  1. #11
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    catherine, I totally agree with the "self-worth" aspect in this situation. And love what your mom said!!!

    Paige - is your dd afraid to be without this guy or is she afraid to be "alone"? If/when she can answer that question honestly, she should be able to figure out what to do. I also agree - be supportive. It is her life to live and her decisions to make.

    It's hard being a parent!!! Hugs to you as well!
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    Update: First of all, it was great to have a place to ask for unbiased, thoughtful advice. Thank you so much. We called her and asked if we could check in. I first asked her if she was single and she said she wasn't sure. Long story, but we proceeded to tell her basically "she was settling for crumbs." My husband surprised me and talked to her about the guys he knew that cheated on their wives/girlfriends and never really stopped. He kept going about how she deserved more, and it wasn't her fault. And we addressed the fact that this was 6 weeks and not just a one night stand. Also, we preceded everything with this is about you and you are strong and loved and capable and we feel like we need to say this, but we will support you no matter what. You guys were right on and we felt really good about the conversation and she was very open to hearing from us. There's more, but suffice it to say, it went well. I noticed that she took all of his pictures off of her instagram, so there's that, for whatever it's worth! Again, I appreciate your words of wisdom.

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    Best of luck to her!!
    To give pleasure to a single heart by a single act is better than a thousand heads bowing in prayer." Mahatma Gandhi

    Be nice whenever possible. It's always possible. - Dalai Lama

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    Quote Originally Posted by Paige View Post
    Update: First of all, it was great to have a place to ask for unbiased, thoughtful advice. Thank you so much. We called her and asked if we could check in. I first asked her if she was single and she said she wasn't sure. Long story, but we proceeded to tell her basically "she was settling for crumbs." My husband surprised me and talked to her about the guys he knew that cheated on their wives/girlfriends and never really stopped. He kept going about how she deserved more, and it wasn't her fault. And we addressed the fact that this was 6 weeks and not just a one night stand. Also, we preceded everything with this is about you and you are strong and loved and capable and we feel like we need to say this, but we will support you no matter what. You guys were right on and we felt really good about the conversation and she was very open to hearing from us. There's more, but suffice it to say, it went well. I noticed that she took all of his pictures off of her instagram, so there's that, for whatever it's worth! Again, I appreciate your words of wisdom.
    no matter how this shakes out, both of you did a fabulous job in relaying information.

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    If your area has shelter in place orders he should be staying away from her and all the others he strings along. Silver lining. I wonder what all the players do now that they can't meet people at bars, parties, etc.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Yppej View Post
    I wonder what all the players do now that they can't meet people at bars, parties, etc.
    They are all busy online. My daughter told me she’s gotten a whole bunch of messages from a dating site that she’d forgotten about, it’s been at least 4 years since she was active on it. It shows approximate date of when the person last logged in- some pretty desperate dudes out there right now.

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