My boyfriend has worked in construction for years (though his is a white collar job). He's never worked in a workplace that isn't dysfunctional, abusive and psychotic in some sense.
I, having only worked only in computer geekery in many industries, observe it in *wonder*. I mean I've worked in abusive workplaces, it's not that I haven't seen that, but it's the exception not the rule for me, he's like never seen NORMAL, has no concept of what a workplace without bullying and abuse is. They'll pick up any weakness and run wit it, everyday at the current job he's watching a coworker get bullied.
So the baseline normal that I understand as normal (though of course if in an abusive workplace I lose track of that too, caught up in the trauma), just isn't there. And again I observe in wonder why every workplace he goes to ends up dysfunctional, while he thinks it's work as such. I don't glorify work as such or imagine it some kind of paradise, but NO, I can only conclude it's the industry. Male dominated yea HECK NO I'm not glorifying that. But I.T. like I do is kind of male? Yea white collar, different universe. My last abusive workplace was female bullying on the manipulative sort, but the things my bf has seen: straight out overt racism in the workplace, chairs being thrown, etc.. And I'm just: jaw drops when I hear it.