I think I mentioned in another thread that we are driving from VT to Maine to attend a family function hosted by my future SIL's parents. They are having a family games day that weekend and they thought they would take advantage of everyone being there to host a shower for my DD and her fiance. I am not inviting anyone from my side of the family--but I decided to do a Zoom event for my family to occur from the in-laws' house during part of the shower.
DH doesn't want to go. He doesn't want to travel, doesn't want to hang out with his future in-laws' family, doesn't want to risk exposure to COVID. All of the attendees are fairly local: mostly Massachusetts. He's only going because our DD really wants SOMEONE from her side of the family to be there.
I haven't worried about the risk of exposure to COVID because I thought it was going to be a relatively small gathering, but when I asked J's mother what the count is, she said 30, not including DH, me, & DD. That's kind of a lot. Now I'm slightly concerned--DH is a heavy smoker, has chronic health issues, is overweight and over 65.
Should I encourage him to stay home?? DD would be very disappointed--as I said, he's often the life of the party and she sure can't count on ME for that--but I truly want to do the most prudent thing.
This family seems to be very safe and reasonable. But if it rains, we'll be forced to go inside--social distancing will be very difficult if not impossible.
I don't know what to do... what would you do?