It's not that she is putting her interests before her father's health--I'm sure she wouldn't do that, even if his absence causes her disappointment. It's just that we have been doing well COVID-wise up here in the Northeast. Vermont, Maine and Massachusetts have all been singled out as having successful re-openings. Our counts are VERY low and are not contributing to this awful upsurge in cases and deaths. If I were to explain to her that the number of people at the shower, coupled with a general reversal of the flattening has me worried about her dad's risks, I know she would fully understand.