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    "Is it true, is it necessary, is it kind?"

    I was thinking about this saying as I was reading on our forum of late, and I had heard this saying before at Al Anon meetings and liked it. So I looked it up, and lo and behold, it is from Rumi! I did not know this, and thought it was a neat find. (If it's true, haha!)


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    I like that Tybee. I try to live up to a similar personal rule that if I'm going to say something that will make someone feel bad, I need to have a damned good reason for doing so.

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    Yeah, Rosa, and so often, for me, I can't find a damned good reason when I look!

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    So that's where it came from! I had seen this expressed as
    T - is it true
    H - is it helpful
    I - is it inspiring
    N - is it necessary
    K - is it kind.
    Someone modified the original, I bet.
    As Cicero said, “Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all the others.”

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    Lately, I have been following "is it necessary" mode. There is way too much blather of late.

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    Especially "is it helpful (necessary)?" Usually not. Most people don't care really what you think, especially when heated.

    I tell ya, since I've taken this on, my life has been much more calm and much less stressful. Sometimes just keeping your mouth shut is the best way to go.
    My therapist told me the way to achieve true inner peace is to finish what I start. So far today, I have finished two bags of M&Ms and a chocolate cake. I feel better already!

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    I wrote the think (except the I was informative) on my board on the 3rd.

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    Such great advice.
    "Do any human beings ever realize life while they live it--every, every minute?" Emily Webb, Our Town
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    Good advice. Thanks for posting.
    To give pleasure to a single heart by a single act is better than a thousand heads bowing in prayer." Mahatma Gandhi
    Be nice whenever possible. It's always possible. HH Dalai Lama
    In a world where you can be anything - be kind. Unknown

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    This would certainly be a quieter world if this rule was observed.

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