Makes one realize that what ACTUALLY happens is truly up to those left dealing with arrangements (even pre-arrangements can be changed!). Best I can do is make my wishes known and, if possible, have the money for what I want done. But, again, the reality is that whoever is handling things can do what they want. Knowing ahead that my wishes are known may generate a sense of comfort while I'm still alive, but doesn't necessarily change the reality of events after I'm gone. And, at that point in time - what will I care?