So over the years, I have bought things and saved them for later to use. This includes two sets of silverware that I really like, a collected set of Dansk Fjord with the wood handles, and a Jensen set that I bought because I have admired Jensen over the years and I treated myself.
I have not incorporated these as everyday silverware because my husband cooks all the time, and my husband abuses my cookware. He will grab whatever is near and use it and mess it up. So I have been afraid to use my nice silverware as everyday because he will inevitably do something like stir a pot of chocolate sauce with it, or spoon out dog food for the dog, or leave it dirty for me on the counter.
If he took good care of my things, I would not mind. But he doesn't , and when I tell him not to use my things, he gets angry and hurt. But he takes good care of his things--just not my things. So it's really a s***** character trait and disrepectful--if it's mine, he can ruin it. If it's a Kobenstyle pot, he can leave it all dirty and stained and not care.
I buy them as usable art and I hate that he disrespects that.
So the stuff sits neatly taking up space and not getting used. And I'm angry, because we need a second set of everything that he can destroy. It is like living with a toddler, and I'm fed up.
I am noticing this because I am unpacking boxes, and I want to lighten the load, but I don't want to sell my treasured things, I want to use them.
I fantasize about living on my own sometimes.